Hi, I’m Marcus,
Editor, founder, dating coach for men at MarcusNeo.Com. The majority of my readers are readers from the United States and the UK, with a bulk of them from Asia especially Singapore.
My client base are top performers in their industries: busy professionals, ambitious and intelligent men.
I help them:
This is done by treating dating, relationship and social skills as a skillset that can be learned just like any other skillset.
It includes using scalable, targeted strategies such as leveraging online dating applications the right way, and learning how to talk to women they are attracted to and develop their personalities into one that is authentic and aligned with their values.
Years ago, I went to Hong Kong with a trip with my friends. My ex girlfriend and I had an argument on text message whilst I was there. In five odd days, she and I broke up through text. I flew off still having a girlfriend I Ioved and landed hours back home without one.
I couldn’t believe the relationship ended through text message.
I tried my best to salvage the situation but she wasn’t having any of it and refused to meet up with me. I officially had my first serious break up at 18.
I was left rock bottom for next two years, stuck in compulsory Singapore military service without a way out.
Somehow or another, I chanced upon the dating advice community and got obsessed with learning dating skills and understanding psychology.
For the typical Asian male, you’ll considered your chances with women as an area of life that is left purely to luck. However, the dating advice community empowered me to understand that by fundamental shifting your behaviour, you can shift your results in your dating life. This fuelled me on a journey.
I spent the next two years Googling tactics, downloading eBooks, flipping through one dating theory after another, trying out ‘negs’ and all sorts of pick up artist techniques. You ever saw that hand shake and spin ‘opener’? Yes, I did that as well.
For all of that… to not work for the next couple of years.
I later found out that pick up lines, techniques are superficial layers to how real emotions work underneath. It has always been about becoming more comfortable with our own sexuality with women, instead of relying on one time strategies.
Things only starting piecing together when I hired out multiple international dating coaches and chanced upon some lift changing books. The coaching programs connected me with similar individuals on the same journey and put me under immense pressure to change.
I started to express myself in a more direct, confident and authentic manner. I thought to myself: if I really needed all those lines and trickery, I must be one hell of an unconfident individual. So gradually, I improved. One thing lead to another. I also took an interest in writing, psychology and entrepreneurship.
These days I am focused on masculinity, relationships, self improvement and emotional well being as opposed to simply dating advice. In 2021, I have moved on and beyond teaching merely dating advice. It’ll not be the focus of my content anymore. I have written extensively about dating advice for men.
To get my dating life handled, I needed to overhaul my entire life. I paid for online programs, hired out top pick up artists, dating coaches and psychologists to finally come up with my own unique model.
Through the years, I adapted my model from classic pick up literature to psychologically researched strategies. I use a model that draws inspiration from both aspects. There are commonalities and overlaps between developing emotional intelligence, getting good at your own emotions and dating beautiful women
I am an efficiency freak and I aim to model out not only what works, but is also sustainable in the long run. Secondly, I do care about a lot about ethics.
In my guides, I reference from psychology: the study of human behaviour. I also try to back up my guides using research and real-world experience.
Ultimately, I believe successful at dating and relationships is to be treated like a sustainable habit. It doesn’t occur through a three-day self-help seminar. It’s has to be worked on like a habit.
This is where I also don’t really buy the usual rah rah self help stuff. In the self help industry it’s not uncommon to see most customers feel good momentarily and find themselves returning to their old self after two weeks.
Unlike all other self-help gurus and self-proclaimed ‘inner game’ gurus tell you, psychological research shows that there’s no way to rewire your anxieties than to go replace them with higher order habits. There is no way but to take direct action.
Initially, my goals were to get into stocks, finance and be a hedge fund manager. You know, the typical Asian route. Hence, I signed up for an accounting and finance degree. However, I found myself hugely disinterested and preferred reading up on psychology and entrepreneurship.
I then spent time collating ideas on dating for men and started a blog documenting my dating process.
Then I thought, since I was interested in business, I figured why not I turn my interest into a business? Solving one business problem after another, I got my first client… a business is born! Over the years I had the pleasure of coaching CEOs, University students, working professionals of different ethnicities from Indians to Chinese to Caucasians from all around the world. Singapore is an international hub after all.
I found out that majority of what you hear and read on mainstream media, YouTube and books such as ‘The Game’ isn’t long term effective or sustainable.
I had to figure this out the hard way.
The common depiction of dating mastery is commonly portrayed as going for crazy hand spins in clubs. Whilst this is great for YouTube, it paints an unrealistic picture of how good dating interactions truly work. These strategies also barely work in Asia. Singapore my home country is very much a traditional Asian culture. Secondly, because I’m Asian and I travel a lot, I needed a model that is grounded can work both in Western and Asian cultures.
I also believe that you cannot completely objectify dating interactions. You can break it down to a science, but after a while, it’s an art.
This is why two different people saying the exact lines can result in two completely reactions. One good example I like to use is: think about the last time someone bragged to you and you can kind of get that feeling that he’s bragging… as opposed to genuinely sharing his experiences.
It’s not about what and how you say it, it’s about why you say it.
Secondly, I haven’t got anything against using lines and techniques as training wheels. I used to rely on them as well. They can be used as a crutch initially. However, I believe you’ll need to learn how to use your own stories and your own personality to connect with women on the long run. On the other hand, if you’re going to treat every other girl like an object, then, needless to say, you’re not going to get far.
Thirdly, I believe that failure and rejection are also inevitable. Failure and rejection are concepts easily said but hard to grasp and even harder to practice. If anyone out there claims that he doesn’t get rejected or that you can avoid rejection, it’s really just clever marketing. Everybody gets rejected and fail… rich, famous, smart or not.
Since I was always curious about models, principles and systems, I grew the obsession of trying to figure out a dating model that work universally, regardless of country or culture. They needed to be applicable in both Western and Eastern cultures.
In my mid twenties, I found myself reading up on behavioural change and psychology and took an immense interest in it. I even took a couple of neuroscience and psychology modules during a short summer stint at UC Berkeley and that was really fun! I then spent time in Los Angeles and New York.
I truly desired to find out something that can work even for a short Asian in Western cultures. I then traveled in Europe in my mid twenties spanning 11 cities. Travelling non stop is fun, but it does take an emotional toil on you.
I try to demonstrate as much as possible how I would do it myself if I were in your shoes as someone trying to better their dating life in the form of real life case studies, examples and video footage. For you readers from all around the world, check out my blog, leave a comment on an article. I read everything.
The majority of my readers are from the United States and the UK in 2021. To be it simply: if a short Asian male can figure it out, I’m sure the rest of the world are able to.
The ride has been fun and my programs has touched the lives of many others in Singapore. However all good things must come to an end. I’m no longer actively updating and growing my audience due to personal and business reasons. I shifted my time and focus to SEO consulting. The site is still flushed with ethical, practical and effective dating coaching, advice and insights for men that come from a self development stand point.
However, my programs still stand the test of time and I expect to leave the site on (till I can find a trusty buyer) and my online programs are still available.
I rip the hell out of Joe Siegel, a Singaporean photographer.